Saturday, 7 July 2018

Proverbs 28:23-28 – Virtues that cultivate healthy relationship

There are behaviours and conducts in life that will make us winsome. When we conduct ourselves well and display those behaviours, people are drawn to us. However, there are also some conducts that are repulsive. When we behave in ways that are contrary to good conduct, we keep people from being near to us. In life we want to add value to the life of others. That being the case, we need to learn how to conduct ourselves well and be an attractive friend rather than a repulsive person. Proverbs 28:23-28 offer us some pointers to be that kind of a person.

In being a people helper, Proverbs 28:23 tells us that admonition is preferred to flattery. With admonition, a person can see his wrong and be accorded the opportunity to correct it. Whereas in flattery, a person will be deceived into thinking that he is without flaw, and has no opportunity to correct himself. Hence if we want to help someone to improve himself, we need to assess his wrong, be frank with him and reprove that person honestly.  

To be good children, Proverbs 28:24 urges us to respect our parents and not deprive them of their security. It would be a terrible crime when children deprive them of that security by cheating them into giving up their possession. Children have no right to assume the mentality that what belongs to their parents will rightly go to him or her, so long as the parents have not allotted it to them. It is wrong to assume that mentality and he or she will be classed as a destroyer. They must respect their parents’ right to hold on to them as long as they are alive.

The Word of God denounces pride and arrogance. Time and again we are told not to be proud because God resists the proud but will give grace to the humble. Pride and a haughty spirit always come before destruction. Hence, we cannot afford to be proud. Here Proverbs 28:25 also decries pride. A prideful person will stir up strife because he cannot back down even if he is in the wrong. In contrast a person who humbly trusts in the Lord will be blessed. The Lord will prosper him or her. God will see to his or her needs in life, as he learns to do what he can and trustingly leaves God to do what he cannot. With that attitude, that person will be prospered by God in whatever he or she undertakes.

A person who demonstrates over-confidence in life is foolish. That’s according to Proverbs 28:26. He trusts in himself and refuses to seek the counsel of God or that of people who are more experienced. He chooses to rely on himself. Such a person cannot recognize his blind-spots and therefore exposes himself to unnecessary dangers. On the other hand, one who walks wisely, not being over-confident and also takes the counsel of others, will walk securely in life. He will first trust in the wisdom of the Lord above and seek His counsel. In addition, he takes the counsel of those who are more experienced than him and have wisely navigated their lives. He shall be spared the agony of the trouble that an over-confident person will suffer.

In life it is always better to be charitable. Proverbs 28:27 tells us that we can never be poorer when we lend a helping hand to the poor. The Bible tells us that he who takes care of the poor lends to the Lord. God is no man’s debtor. He will repay us for the kindness we have shown to His needy creatures.  In contrast, a person who ignores the cry of the needy will not prosper. Since he will not lift a finger to help the needy, in his own time of needs, he will also be ignored by others.

In summing up, Proverbs 28 verse 28 returns to the subject of oppression when wicked especially leaders who take on the helm. Their oppressive regime will drive every one into hiding. Even the highly talented will take cover. Whereas, when oppressive leaders are removed from the scene, righteous people will come out into the open to be recognized. It all depends on what we want in life. We can choose to be a source of blessing or one who causes disruption to peaceful existence. So, choose wisely and live wisely!  

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