Proverbs 12:23-26 – Speaking rightly

In Proverbs 12:15-22, we are counselled not to develop negative speech patterns because of the negative impact they will have on relationship. As people who love God and neighbours, we must avoid speaking words in anger or words that can perjure or provoke. We must of course not be deceitful. Having dealt with negative speech patterns, the teacher now shows us in verses 23-26 what is right speech, the kind we should be engaging in.  

In verse 23, we are admonished to exercise control in our speech. A wise person keeps check on the things he says. Exercising caution, he is careful with his words and not unnecessary spew out what is not helpful. Such a person can be trusted with secret. What he says are usually words that befit the occasion. On the other hand, a foolish person has no restrain. Filled with folly in his heart, he rushes in to speak uncontrollably, displaying his ignorance. His words are often spoken inappropriately and not at the right moment.  Not only will a person wise in speech seeks to speak at the right time, but he is also a diligent person. He is made to rule and control. Unlike him, a slothful person ends up being a servant. What is the connection between verses 23-24? The aim of verse 24 is to tell us that there are people who would talk and talk and not progress in life at all. Whereas there are those who don’t talk much but quietly and diligently pursue and reach their goal in life.    

Verse 25 shows us another speech pattern we should cultivate. We are encouraged to speak words that are encouraging. Many people allow anxiety and the stress of life to weigh them down. They allow their mind to dwell on problems and end up in depression, dismay, despair and in defeat. Just imagine such a person is given a positive word of encouragement. It will definitely help to alleviate and free him from his anxiety and worry.

In verse 26, we are encouraged to provide guidance to our friends by our speech. One who is a true friend can be counted on to say words that will guide a person to make right decisions. This verse also indirectly encourages us to seek the counsel of the wise and be open to his wise words. However, in life we will also find people who are highly opinionated and will not listen to the counsel of others, such people are often misled and would stray from the right course of life.  

In James 1:19, we are encouraged to be quick to hear but slow to speak. We are told also by James that we must bridle our tongue. If we have nothing positive to help another person progress in the Lord, we should just keep quiet. Remember, we are here to refresh others. Let us speak only words that edify and build up. Let’s speak life!