Saturday, 20 June 2020

2 Samuel 13:1-10 – Wrong passion fuelled by wrong counsel

The book of 2 Samuel has two broad divisions. The first division, from chapters 1-12, describes how Israel expanded under the reign of David. He enjoyed success to a large extent until his sin with Bathsheba and the plot he hatched to murder her husband, Uriah. God then sent Nathan to uncover his wickedness and pronounced a two-fold judgment for his sin. As a consequence of his sin, the prophet told David in 2 Samuel 12:10-12 that “‘Now therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house, because you have despised Me and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife.’ Thus says the Lord, ‘Behold, I will raise up evil against you from your own household; I will even take your wives before your eyes and give them to your companion, and he will lie with your wives in broad daylight. Indeed you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel, and under the sun.’” The second division of 2 Samuel begins from chapter 13 all the way to chapter 24. These chapters tell us how God’s judgment pronounced by Nathan played itself out in the life and household of the king. 

David had a large household because he had many wives who bore him many children. In 2 Samuel 13 we will see the mischief of his eldest son Amnon. He was the heir apparent bore to him by Ahinoam of Jezreel.  Amnon had a crush on his half-sister Tamar, the sister of Absalom. They were the children bore to David by Macaah, another of his wife. Tamar must be stunningly beautiful and attractive.  

In those times, the unmarried ladies were kept in a secluded section of the courtyard. Though Amnon could see her he could not get near her. So he fell ill from frustration for not being able to get near her. Unfortunately, he had a scheming cousin by the name of Jonadab whom he was close to. He helped him to devise a plot to get close to Tamar. He suggested that Amnon should feign illness to get David to come to visit him. When the father came and visited, he made the request for Tamar to come and nurse and take care of him. The unsuspecting and naïve David granted his request. So Tamar came and made him some cakes and set it on the table for Amnon to eat. But he refused to eat at the table and insisted that she should bring it to his chamber, which he had ordered everyone to leave. This would have indicated the wrong intention he had. But innocently and foolishly, Tamar acceded to his coaxing and brought the cake to his room.

In this account we see in Amnon a case of one who cherished impure affection so much so that he was overtaken by an unquenchable obsession. It is not wrong to admire beauty but when the admiration drives one to a point of lust, it has become a serious matter. The first thing we can learn from this passage is what we need to do when faced with a situation like this. The best action is not to let our thought dwell too long on it. There is a need to control our minds. For if we become overly obsessed with disproportionate thoughts, they will generate a wrong desire and eventually a wrong and unbridled passion. While the Bible encourages us to resist sin, it tells us to flee sexual immorality. This we will do well to take heed. We need to learn to run away both physically and mentally. The second thing we can learn from this passage is the need to seek godly counsel. Know who you are seeking counsel from. Always evaluate what you have heard. Many words and little or no prayer is dangerous. Any advice to pander to a wrong desire can never be right. Remember, “if you run into a skunk, you will stink like a skunk.” So, first, don’t entertain sinful thoughts, and second, reject ungodly advice.


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