Ephesians 6:1-4 – Walking in divine order (2) – Parents and Children

Having dealt with the roles of husbands and wives, Paul now turned his attention to discuss the proper relationship between children and parents in Ephesian 6:1-4. This admonition given here is so necessary in our fast paced society. We are all so susceptible to the influence of media, and by modern technologies and gadgets that have altered our perception and outlook on life. They have not only affected the conduct of adults but also children. Hence, this is a timely reminder.  

Paul began by commanding that Christian children should obey their parents. We must be mindful that this command includes obedience to unbelieving parents. If we are parents, let’s not put our children into confusion by giving conflicting instruction. Parents should seek to be united and congruent in their instructions.

The question that baffles most children is, “To what limit must I obey my parents?” In Colossians 3:20, Paul called on children to obey parents in all things. The proviso would be only when the obedience would contradict our obedience to Christ.  

In these four verses, Paul also provided the reasons for why children should be obedient. Firstly, he said it’s because God designed it this way. This is His will and is pleasing to Him. Obeying parents is as good as obeying the Lord. Secondly, being obedient is the right thing. It should be the norm of daily living. Thirdly, obedience also affirms the fifth commandment that declares children should honor their fathers and mothers. Finally, it’s because obedience has a reward attached to it. It promises the blessing of a long life here on earth.

In verse 4, Paul addressed the fathers, the head of the home. Fathers must train and nurture their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Training and nurturing is more than teachings. Fathers must not only talk but also lead by setting examples to their children. In this verse there is also a command that is put in the negative way. That is, fathers must not provoke their children to anger. Fathers must not exasperate their children by unjust and overly harsh treatment. For this will lead to anger and made obedience impossible.  

All of us are children first before we become parents. In this regard, this commandment would apply to us. Whether we are parents or not, we know that all of us are children to our parents. The call is to honor them. The best way to do it is to obey them when we are young, to support them when they are old and to love them all the time. For many of us who are privileged to be parents, let’s seek to raise godly children for the Lord! Soli Deo gloria or glory to God alone!