Wednesday, 26 February 2020

1 Samuel 20:1-3 – The quality of a good friend

The last chapter closed with Saul personally pursuing David to Naioth but his plot to kill David was prevented by the Spirit of God. He was overwhelmed by the Spirit of God and prophesied. The question was asked if Saul was also a prophet. His wicked intention was thwarted by God Himself. In this new chapter, David had left Naioth of Ramah and came to Jonathan. This shows us that their friendship was a genuine one. If not, he would not have come to Jonathan and poured out his soul. We must not forget that he was speaking to the son of the person who was seeking his life. Logically, for him to be fearful would be natural. Yet his friendship with Jonathan was revealed through the tough times he was facing. Our crisis has a way of showing who your true friends are. Jonathan was indeed a friend born out of afflictions. One whom David could be honest and not fear being betrayed. Do we have such a friend? More importantly, can we be such a friend?

In the account, we can detect that David was fearful of Saul. The latter had pursued him so relentlessly. And David was not about to sit there quietly and allow him to do whatever he wished. So here in his meet-up with Jonathan, he had some hard questions for him. “What have I done? What is my iniquity? And what is my sin before your father, that he is seeking my life?” David wasn’t seeking answers, he was protesting to Jonathan. After he had done so much for the king, the people and the country, and then to be treated like an arch enemy was repulsive. Here we see David vehemently insisted on his innocence, something that Jonathan himself knew very well. Remember in the conversation Jonathan had with his father, recorded in 1 Samuel 19:5, Saul had pledged not to harm David. But now he was breaking it without any just cause.  Apparently, Jonathan was not fully apprised of all that Saul had done since his last conversation with David. This was seen in how he responded to David, his good friend.

His response shows us how much he knew his father. So he assured David that his father would not do anything without telling him. But David knew better. He was at the brunt of all that Saul had done.  So he said to him “Your father knows well that I have found favor in your sight, and he has said, ‘Do not let Jonathan know this, or he will be grieved.’” David felt as if he was so close to death. He protested his innocence and swore to the danger he was now in. What David told Jonathan reveals how astutely he could read the situation. He knew Jonathan had no part in this father’s wicked plan. He also knew he could trust his friend to be reasonable. So here he was soliciting Jonathan's assistance to help him deal with his father’s scheme.   

Frankness and open conversation are the marks of true friends. There is no fear or pretense in true friendship. How blessed it is for one to find such a friend. Such a friendship takes time to cultivate. We should find a few and keep them. They will help you in times of need. True friends are born out of afflictions. We can identify them when we are facing a crisis. More than seeking a good friend, let us be one ourselves.   

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